Halt the Hate....

Hater:

(n) hay-ter: An individual that does not have anything good or positive to say about another‘s accomplishments; one who is envious and can/will find something negative to say with or without reasonable cause or explanation. (Lyf Experience Definition)


I think I should start documenting where my inspiration comes from because it can be found in the strangest of places… Even if I don’t make it a point to do it every time I did want to state that the inspiration for this blurb came from twitter, with a twist.

It’s one thing for damn near everyone in the world to claim that they have haters (which I absolutely refuse to believe because let’s be honest, now a days it’s usually the people not doing anything who give themselves way more credit than they are due)((more often than not people give themselves more credit than they deserve)) but for so many people to actually BE haters is astounding to me. Ok putting on my “empathy cap”, I kinda understand that it has a lot to do with bitterness and these people being unhappy with themselves; but at the same time, don’t be mad because someone else has accomplishments, just find a way to get your own.

I recently went on a following spree of people in my city. It was sparked by randomly stumbling upon a collective of retweeted messages from the followers of someone I knew. Needless to say I didn’t know these people but I was absolutely astounded at the way they chose to utilize twitter. Instead of competing for the attention of people outside their scope of business they decided to basically link up and support one another. I loved seeing this kind of positivity, especially locally, but most importantly amongst young African-American business minded individuals. Now I should explain that I have always kept a close knit circle because the times that I have tried to introduce new people into the mix, more often than not it resulted in this newfound “hate” that I didn’t get down with, so for me to see that people outside of my crew supported their own and uplifted each other like we do was comforting and very appealing to say the least. It made me actually want to get out and network again, rather than isolate myself.

I wish I had a way to make these people realize that hating gets you nowhere. Because of the fact that I can’t comprehend their mindset it makes it difficult for me to find the words to say to make them understand that to make it out here you have to help one another, support one another, don’t be so caught up in self-absorbed that you don’t want anyone else prosper. Contrary to popular belief, there is a lot of room at the top. From my experience, the best way to get to where you want to be is to support those who are doing what you want to do. Instead of speaking spitefully, try congratulating them; it’ll get you much further. Find the right people by networking with positivity. Think about it, would you be willing to work with or help someone who wants you to fail?? Yeah, me too…..